You can’t use a person as a security blanket.

Earlier today, I spoke with someone whose son has ASD, and I told him about a very anxious situation I was trying to work through. This was, as so many problems are for those on the spectrum, interpersonal. Every relationship has some anxiety; however, as I feel and have felt so misunderstood my entire life, when someone really seems to understand me, I want to keep them around. That makes sense, right?

Well . . . it makes sense to me but maybe not to the other person. Sometimes I forget most people have more friends than I do, so I’m wanting a larger percentage of their time than is realistic.

The parent of the ASD child made the observation that I was using my friend “like a security blanket.” That was a good way to describe it, and I’m easily able to see how that is not ideal. I can’t even carry my weighted blanket around all day (and, I highly suggest trying one if you have not – for many reasons, not just ASD). Sadly, I may have lost my friend who I probably made feel a bit too much like my security blanket. This means I may not be able to talk any more to my “security blanket” about weighted blankets, and that is as sad as the phrase is odd.

I wonder if I can ever have “proper” friendships. I don’t think I know what they are! For now, I have to reflect more on what happened and determine if I want to attempt to make friends in the future. But, I am sad – I really do want my security blanket back. I’m just being honest . . . “it” (the person) was so helpful to me, and I don’t want a new one. I’m kind of autistic in that way. 🙂

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One response to “You can’t use a person as a security blanket.”

  1. […] you may have and if there are some around you who understand. One caring person (see my “Security Blanket” post) cannot counter those who either don’t care or, worse yet, find some sport in […]


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